"I look tired" — the eye-bag consult
A regular-type customer said she looks tired and asked about her eyes. You showed her on the iPad, then told her she should also do her face because it's "sagging." She pushed back hard — "I'm asking about my eyes, why are you talking about my face?" — and got irritated. You implanted your opinion and implied she looks old. Defence up, trust down.
- Ask first: "Where do you feel you look tired?" — let her point.
- She says eyes → "Honestly it's not that severe, but we can improve it. Where else aren't you happy?"
- She raises what she really cares about. Affirm the good: "This looks very natural — I wouldn't touch it."
- Never say "sagging." Reframe: "If we lift this a little, you'll look less tired."
- Close like a partner: "Let's fix one thing first this month, the rest next month."
LessonAsk where she feels tired. Affirm what's good. Reframe, never insult. One thing at a time.